Men objectify women. That is not a secret.
What is kept more on the hush-hush just among us girls is that women have always objectified men as well.
We drool over the butt of a hot celebrity just as sloppily as a man staring at Kim’s assets.
(Come on, my first celebrity crushes were Antonio Saboto Jr and Jean-Claude Van Damme. Talk about your gluteus maximus.)
And that’s ok.
Because they’re celebrities.
Well, that’s how I justify it anyhow.
But there is a difference in how woman (or at least how I) objectifiy men.
- As I mentioned, I can only objectify celebrities. Never a real person that I have met in real life. Real people or, well, real people. Celebrities are characters. Even their social networking are carefully (or artlessly) plays for additional attention towards their brand.
- I am often in love with the character not the actor. Case in point, I find Hugh Laurie as Dr. Gregory House, M.D. extremely sexy. I know, I know, Dr. House is a bonafide ass. But an ass who can back his shit up and stands by his convictions. However, a couple of years ago, I saw Mr. Laurie giving an interview as himself and I felt…nothing. He is not his character and his character is not him.
- And going in the oppossite direction, finding out that the actor playing the character is not as great or, at least, redeemable, as the character can lower the appeal. I use to be all about Ian Somerholder and his character Damian on Vampire Diaries. That was, until he started being a public jerk with his breakup with co-star Nina Debrov. While he use to be a solid nine, he dropped down to, at best, a seven. And let’s not forget Brad Pitt. A perfect 10 if there ever was one. Until he not only got cheating (dropped him down to a 8) but was an ass about it (made him lose another 2 -3 points). He appears to have settled in to being a good husband and father so I find him about an eight again but, alas, unless a miracle happens, I don’t think that I will ever see him as a 10 again. He has become that guy. ~sigh~
- They need to be a good person. They need to be at least 51% good. Personally, I am only attracted to good guys. Even my bad boys have to be good guys, if that makes sense. Heros get bonus points. However, I do see the appeal of the bad bad boy. Even though I couldn’t get into Sons of Anarchy, I can see why some women find them appealing.
- Here is a pivotal difference in male objectification of women. Rape. Or, at least allusion to forced copulation. Although I may (ahem) have mentioned that I would like to climb Joe Magnellio like a tree, I have never even thought take him, force him, or that I know he likes it rough. Yet, these are common themes in male objectification conversation. If I heard a girl talking like this, I would hope that I would shut it down and probably spurn the lady in question. However, boy’s tacitly agree with this sentiment by happily acknowledging it or by saying nothing at all.
- It is our turn. Sorry fellas if generations of your ancestors sucked up all your chances for it be socially acceptable for you to objective a woman. It wouldn’t have been so bad if they hadn’t leveled the playing field by adding a layer of oppression in the mix. Unfortunately, it will be generations before the male of the species has redeemed itself. Sorry. Not sorry.
So, do you objectify men? Or Women? Or do you think that it absolutely 100% wrong.